Sunday, 30 April 2017

Its Your Body, and Thats It - Dress for YOU.

You see so much online about 'dressing for your body type' and articles on what does and does not or will and will not suit you. What to buy, and what to steer clear of, and frankly it frustrates the hell out of me. You, as a person who likes fashion, can wear whatever you bloody well want to. Talking about the portrayal of different shapes and sizes within the fashion industry is always going to be a touchy subject, and I don't really think thats going to change. The one thing I really do have an issue with though, is telling somewhat what they should and shouldn't be wearing purely based on their body shape, not their own personal style.  

I don't have the model figure, I also don't have the gorgeous curvaceous figure either. The two figures we are constantly bombarded with online and in print, the voluptuous and the toned. If I see a style I like, or an outfit I like, if I want to try and recreate it for myself then I damn well will. Only then will I decide whether I want to actually wear it or not. There are some trends I have tried, and will leave to other people to style as I just personally haven't felt confident enough in the. My example, is the girlfriend/mom/boyfriend jeans. I have thighs. Therefore I have come to realise and reluctantly accept that they are more like skinny jeans on and around the tops of my legs, then baggy elsewhere. This is just how I am and my body shape. Yes, I think they look amazing on the models and wonderful tall slender women who can pull off a straight jean like nobody's business. But is that me? Absolutely not. Those jeans give me some kick ass 'thighbrows' and I am okay with that.

There are also a hell of a lot of tips and tricks you can use to make items you would love to style more flattering to you. Why do you think that I wear belts all the time? I don't have the natural curve, I am very much bottom heavy with a lot to be desired on top, so cinching in my waist makes me feel more confident sometimes, more sexy if you will. By all means dress for your figure, but only if its in clothes that YOU love and YOU feel confident in, not what someone else or someone writes that you should. It doesn't work like that. Someone might say a little one like me shouldn't be in leather pants, that they are for the gorgeous leggy ladies, but I love them, so who cares?

I am always talking about confidence when it comes to styling and my advice for styling, and thats solely because I think that its the most important thing about what you wear and how you wear it. If you are wearing something you love AND something you feel good in. 

Recently, I have gotten more self conscious about my thighs, I am going to be honest with you. So, I have been wearing things that go over my thighs, longer jumpers or tops, something where I feel that the focus is taken away from areas I don't feel particularly good about.

Take this outfit for example. I knew this jumper was long enough for me to not be overly conscious of areas I worry over and I know that bringing in my waist would bring the attention upward to my waist. I really adore this belt, it was an absolute steal at £4 from Primark. I have wanted to get on the 'corset' trend for a while, and this belt was the perfect way for me to do this. 

If I feel good, it shows and I'm sure it does for all of you as well. Yes, some styles of clothing may have been created with certain body shapes in mind, but that doesn't mean only those can wear it. Its not about being the bloody chosen one in the fashion game. Its about being you. 

When I wake up in the morning ready to get dressed, I gravitate towards the pieces I bought or picked out because I loved them, me. Not pieces that were picked out for me or were told would look best on my particular body shape, because who the hell knows whats going to suit someone more than they themselves?

H x


Wednesday, 19 April 2017

The Beauty of Staying Close to Home with Radisson Blu - Durham

I've started working on a little project with Radisson Blue Hotels, whereby I discover beauty a little bit closer to home. You hear people talk about 'staycations' but if I am honest, I always had some sort of blasé approach in which I just assumed it was all caravanning or camping or giving Wales or Scotland a visit at some distant relatives house as opposed to actually seeing it as a proper getaway. 

We have London, but do we really think long and hard about where else we could be seeing, without the hefty price of a plane ticket? We have such a vast transport network in the UK, that we can get pretty much anywhere and everywhere we want to. 

I went and spent a couple of days in Durham. (Have a look at the gorgeous hotel here!) Somewhere, if I am honest, I had never really particularly thought about going to spend a few days (sorry anyone from Durham). Not for any reason, its just not somewhere I have ever seen as a mini break destination. Boy was I wrong. 

I love the idea of exploring new places, so why not do this at home? Its closer right? I chose to drive down, albeit alone, it wasn't that bad. It was about a 2 and a half hour drive for me from where I live. I arrived at Radisson Blu later on in the afternoon about 4/5pm and went straight to the spa. I haven't actually had a relaxing spa visit for as long as I can remember, its not normally something I take advantage of in hotels. I definitely will be from now on. I had a facial, again something I have never actually had done (a huge regret, my skin felt amazing afterwards!). 

As it was late when I arrived, I figured I only wanted to have my dinner in the restaurant (the quality of the restaurant really took me by surprise, I have had some hotel restaurant disasters but this was really on another level. I felt like I was actually in a restaurant.). I took myself to the local cinema that was in a theatre, a really gorgeous little local cinema to watch Beauty and The Beast, again... I will shout from the rooftops that there is no shame in going to the cinema alone because in my opinion its THE most antisocial activity you can do with anyone. 

I woke up from a damn comfy sleep in my hotel room, got room service breakfast and ate it on the bed in my hotel bathrobe. If you don't do all these things while in a hotel, are you really staying in the hotel???? It was such a lovely day, I don't think I could have picked a sunnier day to walk around and explore. 

I was taken aback by Durham, honestly. It was not what I expected. Its beautiful. If you're a fan of pretty buildings and gorgeous architecture, cute streets, coffee shops and a gorgeous riverside walk, then Durham is for you. It was a Saturday and there was a gorgeous little market square full of stalls selling unique pieces galore. Vintage stalls selling clothes at the prices vintage clothes should be, non of this overpriced 'reclaimed vintage' bulls*t. Just lovely linen covered stalls with gorgeous trinkets and one off pieces, there is something irresistible about local markets. 

I took time to walk, as I always do. I snapped as I went, enrapturing the beauty that surprised me around every corner. I walked along the river for a while, and sat and just watched for a good hour. I watched the walkers, I watched the water, and I watched the families enjoying the sunshine. Its strangely comforting watching other people looking really happy. I guess, as Britons, how can we not be happy when we get a glimpse of sunshine?

Durham was not somewhere I would have thought to come away for a little escape, but thats exactly what it ended up being. If you have ever been to Chester, it was a little bit like that but with more open space and greenery. There is a gorgeous cathedral and subsequent walls, gorgeous water and gorgeous green. There was such a lovely bustle to the place, and it was definitely livelier at night if that would be something you would want. It seems to have it all. Also being not too far away from Newcastle means if you were staying for any longer then you could trip out.

I'm going to be hopefully showing you some more gems of the UK and what they really have to offer. I think sometimes we are so obsessed with the idea of going away abroad that we forget the variety that we have ourselves back home. Everyone loves some sunshine or some snow, but for a weekend away why not look to home for inspiration? I am hoping to bring you some of that inspiration. 
I hope you enjoyed this little insight, thank you to Radisson for sending me away for a little 'stylecation'. 


H x


Sunday, 16 April 2017

All Black: A Re-Vamp

I wrote this post and it deleted it all and part of my soul is crying, so here we go again. 

I have a comfort zone in all black, I'll be the first to admit. If I am feeling uninspired or frankly, unattractive, its a comfort blanket to grab and throw on. I love it all the same, but I thought it was about time to try something a little different... But not too different. 

I know you might be sat there thinking, 'all leather? are you mad???'. I know, but trust me, it kinda works. I love my leather pants, I have had them for a year or so and they are my absolute go to when I am sick of wearing jeans, we all have that - you've worn the same pair of jeans for the past two weeks and you're just sick of trying to pair the same three tops with them and the cycle continues. (Also extremely handy for when said jeans are in the wash...)

These pants are honestly so easy to style, I know they may seem daunting but they're black remember and what doesn't go with that? You can dress them up and seriously dress them down. However, I urge you to avoid the more humid days. I'll leave you to do the maths on that one. 
I usually use them for the more 'off duty' looks I go for. I'll throw them on with an oversized mens t shirt I bought from Primark for £2.50 (you know the drill) and some black boots, a bit like I have above. Its just a really easy way to cheat the style system, making you look like you've put a heck of a lot more effort into your outfit than you actually have. 

You also don't have to break the bank for recreating a look like this, mine were only £19.99 from H&M and they are not as uncomfortable as I know you're thinking they are. Very stretchy, very faux and an elasticated waist - what more could you want?

When I was shooting this with my lovely occasional photographer Jess (she's fab), she pointed out how truly antisocial this made me look, and I am not going to lie - it only made me love it more. I like fashion in two ways, to feel normal and comfortable, and to stick out like a sore thumb. 

This look was an absolute excuse for me to look much cooler than I actually am, thats for sure. I know I jumped on the aviator jacket trend late here, but this jacket was a recent purchase in the Topshop sale, and I haven't taken it off. I have a love of longline jackets, they make me comfortable and I love how they cover my waist and thighs, something I don't always feel comfortable enough to show. I always find that this style and length of jacket is flattering on everyone, it slims the legs and somehow makes you look a little taller (even if you are a little one like me).

This look has a real 'Lost Boys' feel to it, and I think thats why I loved it so much. I think wearing leather outside a leather jacket is something everyone should try, its honestly not as daunting as you might think, and I think you'll like it. 

How would you style these? Do you already style it up with leather? Let me know!!


H x

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