Wednesday, 14 December 2016

It's Okay To Not Have Everything Together All At Once

Since I have been able to give my blogging 100% of my attention and time, I have seen a big improvement with the work I have been able to do and the opportunities which have come my way. Even though it all seems to be going in the right direction, I still don't always feel as if I am always where I want to be. Its difficult to know where you are wanting to go and what your end of the line goals are because, what is actually achievable? I am not going to do a 'cat poster' on you and say absolutely anything is achievable, because if you realistically think about it, its not. But there is nothing to stop you heading towards gradual and intermediate goals to get to where you are heading, and I guess thats what this is about. 

I have been able to meet some extremely successful fellow bloggers and influencers who are able to live amazing lives off their blog and the hard work and dedication they have put into their platforms, and there is no doubt in my mind that making this work out for me the way some of the inspirational people around me have is my current goal. I sit and think about this goal a heck of a lot, especially when I am feeling unmotivated or uninspired. Its hard to constantly have everything together and be consistently driving towards your main goal in life. Everyone has days where in essence they mope about because there is something more they want, but really, are just sat on the sofa with a cup of tea inwardly moping and hoping it all 'just works out'. Funnily enough, I fully support a day of moping every now and again, it helps you figure out whether its something that truly bothers you or not, and whether its worth pursuing (applicable to so many aspects of life). Gotta love a good cup' o tea and a good old mope...

I don't feel like I have it together 24/7 and I wouldn't think that anyway every truly does. We are often made to feel we need to have it all sorted and figured out, and then on top of that, need a intinery plan of how we intend to get there, and when. Life never works out the way you want it to, and if you do reach your goals no matter how big or small, you almost sure as hell don't get there as planned. I don't mean to come across hugely philosophical, but I do believe if something is meant to be, then it will be. 
I have a vision of how I would love my career and life to plan out in the near future, and will try and do everything in my power to make it happen, however if it doesn't, then it wasn't meant to be. 
I have small goals for my work currently, like being consistently posting twice a week for you all, and once a day on my Instagram. However, this works heavily around me feeling inspired enough to sit and write for you all. I adore fashion, and always have, and won't stop bringing you style posts as I love shooting them. Over the past few months I have re-found my love of writing more personal and lifestyle related posts, and tying them into fashion posts like this one now. Finding your footing in anything is hard, and perhaps after 4 years this is my blogs awkward teenage faze. (Does this mean I can tease and make fun of it?...)

I would like to think me combining the two ways of writing and aesthetic of fashion and lifestyle may be my place in the blogging industry. Now I am trying to make this work for myself, I have definitely been struggling with my identity in the industry. I am struggling to get consistent content for you all at the moment, I don't live super central to Manchester, so I am not in enough or have someone around to take shots in town (I wish). So I am having to make do as and when, which I honestly hate. So, I am actively trying to sort it out, and be bold enough to ask who I am with to take a little photo, its all not hard, its just about working round things in your way. 

You see what does well and potentially pays well, but you don't feel thats where you belong? Its the same in many walks of life I guess, you despise the idea of an office job as it pays well and looks good, however you love being artistic, or writing, or bloody golf I don't know, and thats where your heart lies. 
I am a true believer in going after what your heart tells you to, but at the same time, know when you've spent yourself doing so. I know how much I want what I do, but I think eventually I will know when it may be time to start considering other things. I have every faith in myself, and I hope I won't have to, but I also have every faith that if it doesn't work out, I will make something of myself anyway through something else I enjoy. 

I think accepting that not having everything together is an inevitability and that something may or may not work out the way you envision it, is not the end of the world. Or, even not really knowing what it is you're wanting to do. It'll come to you, there won't be nothing, there is always something. If you have a talent or a passion in life, you're blessed. Not everyone is able to find something they are truly passionate about, and if you have something, chase it. Chase it till you've given it your all, then chase the next best thing. Aaaannndddd repeat. Don't stress, its all good, we all get overwhelmed. 

Shop this look below, I love this outfit. Monochrome and a pop of colour? Yes please. 

I will have an extra post this week for you all, a MAMMOTH gift guide will be live tomorrow, can't wait for you all to see it! 


H x

(Images shot by the fab Anton Dee

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