Sunday, 23 October 2016

Three Hopes for The Old Year.

The other day I sat and thought about how quickly this year has gone by, and what significant changes its brought to what I considered my normality. The birth of my brand new beautiful baby niece on the 13th of October made me realise just how fast time flies, a whole nine months and a hell of a lot of changes, the most recent of which, her coming into mine and my families lives. There is always so much talk about new years resolutions, but what about the good old year we are in right now? 
There seems to be a failsafe within the majority of people that when it gets to this time of year and the realisation may come that we perhaps haven't achieve what we had hoped we would have by now, the 'I will wait till next year, for a new year' seems to be what we turn to. Although my new years resolutions and hopes for myself and others have most definitely changed throughout this year, I couldn't help but wonder, why can't resolutions be ever changing and evolving, and most of all - all year round?



A number of different things have happened recently that have seriously made me re-evaluate what I want and need in my life, and the bottom line is, negativity is not one of them, in whatever manifesto that may be... I think this is something that is easily transferable to so many aspects of anyones life, regardless how big or small the situation.
I had a re-evaluation of where I am at this year, and figured whats stopping me in coming up for hopes for the old year, because turning points are the perfect time for new goals and aspirations, so I came up with three.

Don't say no to experiences and opportunities for anyone but myself and my own personal reasons. 



I think, when you have people you care about in your life, regardless of who they are, you always factor them into the majority of your decision, which is amazing as it shows your care. However, when the decisions are to do with your life or an experience that may enrich your life, its important to mainly only factor in yourself. I have majorly fallen short of this one, putting my desires perhaps behind what I think other people may want, or what may fit in best with other peoples lives. This is one of the main driving forces for the new series I will be starting and continuing on here (blog post on it soon). I want to just experience anything I have the chance to, whenever I am able to facilitate it. Something I urge you to try and do, it doesn't have to be as drastic as me attempting to travel the world alone, whether it be saying yes to last minute plans, travelling further afield to visit friends or family, or just choosing to have some days to yourself as opposed to filling them with others all the time. For me, saying yes to as many business opportunities as I can will be how I go about this wish, whether it be facilitating myself getting down to London for events, press trips, or my own travel for content for you all. I am suddenly a far greater believer in creating your own opportunities alongside accepting those that come along, I have huge intentions of investing the money I make through my blog back into it, especially for this new travellers series, because flights aren't cheap and yes, they aren't free even if you think they may be! I will always be completely transparent with you guys, thats something I never intend to change. 
Just start saying yes, nothing too drastic at first, but maybe it'll take you places you really go. 

Be there for those who really do care about me, not those who don't.



I am, and always have been a very giving person. I don't just mean materialistically but in myself, if you are someone I care about, a friend, family member or someone else, I will give you 100% attention. I am sure many of you are the same, and sometimes because of this, your judgement of perhaps who may or may not return the effort is a little skewed and you look past tell tale signs they don't care as much as you. Its great for them, they've got you! But something I am really wanting to do is not exhaust myself on people who do not return the efforts, especially in friendships and relationships its exhausting trying to maintain something that is somewhat one sided, for anyone! I will get up and be there for anyone who asks me to be, so I think for everyone, its important to try and do that for the people who you think would do it for you. If someone is constantly ignoring your texts every now and again and even when they do reply its nothing of great interest, is it really worth the text?! Or if you're always the one suggesting plans, just sit up and realise. I have figured that I am going to be the person with a small and close group of people I give my all, and then there will be everyone else. I have definitely downsized with the people I care about in my life, but I am not even phased by it, because it means those who are there are the ones who genuinely care about me and whats going on in life. Stick with the people who ask you how you are, how whatever it is you're doing is going, and checks up if they know something important has happened. Shout out to Jess, who calls me pretty much every day from Cardiff and constantly wants to know how my job is and how meetings have gone, you're a one of a kind kid. Get yourself a Jess!!
Those are the types of people who deserve your time.



Fall in love, with myself again. 

I have spent pretty much the past 4 years of my life in relationships, and holy crap am I exhausted. Hello to me! Its nice to meet you, wanna go for a drink sometime? Yes. Yes I do. 
I cannot express to you enough how ready I am to fall back in love with myself, for me and no one else. I don't have anyone to impress or please, just me. I am going to travel and see beautiful places and not worry about anyone and I am so excited for it. I can't wait for lone plane journeys, lone days in the city, just time for me. Time I can fill with family and friends as well, the most important people really. I take time to have relaxing baths, see my grandparents, and I have gotten back into baking, and I already feel so much better. Just being alone is something thats really looking like its going to be suiting me for a little while, I am going to work and I am going to succeed. I'm determined!
This is why I am always preaching time for yourself, I believe its a lot easier than you think to loose touch with yourself, and I think thats whats slowly happened to me over time, and I am really ready for that to not happen. I actually love taking myself for food, is that crazy? So many Yo! Sushi dates occurring at the moment, if you follow me on snapchat you'll be fully aware of the obsession... I love it! I took myself on a cinema date and everything, and got asked 4 or 5 times: "is it just you???" yes, is that alright for you?
Just me! Little old me!


I think it's easy to get caught up in the bumps in the road, but I guess its about figuring out what you need to focus on, and who you need there to support you, and allowing yourself to be your biggest fan sometimes. 

I know I am going to continue to come up with relevant goals and aspirations for the rest of this year, and I'd love to hear your hopes for this old year below.

Hope you enjoyed this post,

Love 
H x

SHARE:

8 comments

  1. Another fantastic post Hayleigh, I absolutely LOVED this one! It completely made my day when I got in from work and saw that hayleighjm.co.uk had new content :). You are one of my main blogging inspirations and constantly inspire me with every single post that you write. x

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you so much, I am so glad you enjoy it when new content goes live, thats made my day! I am hoping to have at least two posts a week now hopefully three! I can't thank you enough for your kind words, they inspire me to keep working hard!

      H x

      Delete
  2. Wow Hayleigh. This was such a thought provoking read. I definitely agree that being there for those who genuinely care about you is so important and that has been something I have been channeling for the past year. I have lost so many 'friends' because of it but now my circle of friends are people who truly care and want the best for me. Thank you for this great read x

    lipsticks-and-louboutins.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I think its really important to look past exteriors of everything in your life and figure out whats best for you, I am so glad you enjoyed this post, its been one of my favourite ones to write in a long time. Thank you for taking the time to read through this post, I really appreciate it.

      H x

      Delete
  3. What an absolutely lovely post Hayleigh! You go girl! xxx

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to read it love! Means the world.

      H x

      Delete
  4. What a great post - really made me rethink my year and encouraged me to make a postive change for ME! xox

    ReplyDelete
  5. Yes! I am so so glad, you do whats best for you and no one else!

    H x

    ReplyDelete

© @hayleighjm. All rights reserved.
Blogger Templates by pipdig