Friday, 21 October 2016

Three Hopes for The Old Year.

The other day I sat and thought about how quickly this year has gone by, and what significant changes its brought to what I considered my normality. The birth of my brand new beautiful baby niece on the 13th of October made me realise just how fast time flies, a whole nine months and a hell of a lot of changes, the most recent of which, her coming into mine and my families lives. There is always so much talk about new years resolutions, but what about the good old year we are in right now? 
There seems to be a failsafe within the majority of people that when it gets to this time of year and the realisation may come that we perhaps haven't achieve what we had hoped we would have by now, the 'I will wait till next year, for a new year' seems to be what we turn to. Although my new years resolutions and hopes for myself and others have most definitely changed throughout this year, I couldn't help but wonder, why can't resolutions be ever changing and evolving, and most of all - all year round?

A number of different things have happened recently that have seriously made me re-evaluate what I want and need in my life, and the bottom line is, negativity is not one of them, in whatever manifesto that may be... I think this is something that is easily transferable to so many aspects of anyones life, regardless how big or small the situation.
I had a re-evaluation of where I am at this year, and figured whats stopping me in coming up for hopes for the old year, because turning points are the perfect time for new goals and aspirations, so I came up with three.

Don't say no to experiences and opportunities for anyone but myself and my own personal reasons. 

I think, when you have people you care about in your life, regardless of who they are, you always factor them into the majority of your decision, which is amazing as it shows your care. However, when the decisions are to do with your life or an experience that may enrich your life, its important to mainly only factor in yourself. I have majorly fallen short of this one, putting my desires perhaps behind what I think other people may want, or what may fit in best with other peoples lives. This is one of the main driving forces for the new series I will be starting and continuing on here (blog post on it soon). I want to just experience anything I have the chance to, whenever I am able to facilitate it. Something I urge you to try and do, it doesn't have to be as drastic as me attempting to travel the world alone, whether it be saying yes to last minute plans, travelling further afield to visit friends or family, or just choosing to have some days to yourself as opposed to filling them with others all the time. For me, saying yes to as many business opportunities as I can will be how I go about this wish, whether it be facilitating myself getting down to London for events, press trips, or my own travel for content for you all. I am suddenly a far greater believer in creating your own opportunities alongside accepting those that come along, I have huge intentions of investing the money I make through my blog back into it, especially for this new travellers series, because flights aren't cheap and yes, they aren't free even if you think they may be! I will always be completely transparent with you guys, thats something I never intend to change. 
Just start saying yes, nothing too drastic at first, but maybe it'll take you places you really go. 

Be there for those who really do care about me, not those who don't.

I am, and always have been a very giving person. I don't just mean materialistically but in myself, if you are someone I care about, a friend, family member or someone else, I will give you 100% attention. I am sure many of you are the same, and sometimes because of this, your judgement of perhaps who may or may not return the effort is a little skewed and you look past tell tale signs they don't care as much as you. Its great for them, they've got you! But something I am really wanting to do is not exhaust myself on people who do not return the efforts, especially in friendships and relationships its exhausting trying to maintain something that is somewhat one sided, for anyone! I will get up and be there for anyone who asks me to be, so I think for everyone, its important to try and do that for the people who you think would do it for you. If someone is constantly ignoring your texts every now and again and even when they do reply its nothing of great interest, is it really worth the text?! Or if you're always the one suggesting plans, just sit up and realise. I have figured that I am going to be the person with a small and close group of people I give my all, and then there will be everyone else. I have definitely downsized with the people I care about in my life, but I am not even phased by it, because it means those who are there are the ones who genuinely care about me and whats going on in life. Stick with the people who ask you how you are, how whatever it is you're doing is going, and checks up if they know something important has happened. Shout out to Jess, who calls me pretty much every day from Cardiff and constantly wants to know how my job is and how meetings have gone, you're a one of a kind kid. Get yourself a Jess!!
Those are the types of people who deserve your time.

Fall in love, with myself again. 

I have spent pretty much the past 4 years of my life in relationships, and holy crap am I exhausted. Hello to me! Its nice to meet you, wanna go for a drink sometime? Yes. Yes I do. 
I cannot express to you enough how ready I am to fall back in love with myself, for me and no one else. I don't have anyone to impress or please, just me. I am going to travel and see beautiful places and not worry about anyone and I am so excited for it. I can't wait for lone plane journeys, lone days in the city, just time for me. Time I can fill with family and friends as well, the most important people really. I take time to have relaxing baths, see my grandparents, and I have gotten back into baking, and I already feel so much better. Just being alone is something thats really looking like its going to be suiting me for a little while, I am going to work and I am going to succeed. I'm determined!
This is why I am always preaching time for yourself, I believe its a lot easier than you think to loose touch with yourself, and I think thats whats slowly happened to me over time, and I am really ready for that to not happen. I actually love taking myself for food, is that crazy? So many Yo! Sushi dates occurring at the moment, if you follow me on snapchat you'll be fully aware of the obsession... I love it! I took myself on a cinema date and everything, and got asked 4 or 5 times: "is it just you???" yes, is that alright for you?
Just me! Little old me!

I think it's easy to get caught up in the bumps in the road, but I guess its about figuring out what you need to focus on, and who you need there to support you, and allowing yourself to be your biggest fan sometimes. 

I know I am going to continue to come up with relevant goals and aspirations for the rest of this year, and I'd love to hear your hopes for this old year below.

Hope you enjoyed this post,

H x


Wednesday, 19 October 2016

The Untimate Chill - PJ's and Trying New Denim

Recently, as amazing as it is to sit and plan a super fashion forward outfit, sometimes more often than not I just want to throw something on and get out the door if I am busy. Nothing says quick and easy like wearing your pyjamas out and about... There has a been a huge nightwear as daywear trend going on recently with slip dresses and nighties styled with heels and I have absolutely adored this trend and completely jumped on the bandwagon. But I figured that there must be a much easier way of working the trend on a more everyday basis. 

Silk shirts have been super popular on the hughstreet recently, with big brands like Topshop and ASOS providing us with shirts for this trend, but for me, I thought, why not just check my PJ drawer? It is all about wearing your PJs every day right? I remembered getting this Ann Summers 'faux silk' set a few months ago, and its something I do wear pretty frequently as pyjamas so I thought, why not?

I wanted this look to be really relaxed overall, and on my recent press trip to Paris we went to Killiwatch Paris, a gorgeous vintage shop in the heart of Paris we were lucky enough to visit and choose a piece from while we were out there. I have never really strayed away from high waisted skinny jeans, I think they are just something that I know always tends to suit me so if I am honest I never really want to stray away from that. However when I was there, my lovely friend Lindsay (who's peachy behind looks incredible in any pair of jeans) told me to try some mom jeans, something completely new for me.

If I am honest I really didn't have very high hopes for mom jeans, I really didn't think they would flatter me at all, especially after I have been stuck in my skinny jeans ways for so long. 

Not going to lie you lot, but this trend is one of the comfiest trends ever, going out in your pyjamas?! Is there anything more comfy sounding? Now, I am not condoning going all out in your matching christmas pyjamas or your disney onesie (however there can always be a cheeky supermarket trip made every now and again...). 

I am going to put up some of my favourite 'nightwear as daywear' picks up on my blog shop which there is a link to above! I update this regularly with my new in bits in my wardrobe and in my posts. 

Ive got some new and exciting blog posts that are a little more writing heavy that I have been working on so I am sorry that there hasn't been as much as there should be on here, but I wanted to just give you a quick little outfit post so you all know I am not abandoning you! Just planning even more for you all!

Anyway, keep your eyes peeled, and I hope you enjoyed this little post by little old me. 


H x
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